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Read about the Grahams' quest to use their personal tragedy to benefit others. On the "Legacy" link, read about the just-released book by Yochi Dreazen, The Invisible Front.
Major General Mark Graham and his wife, Carol, initiated this memorial website after the loss of their two sons as a way to remember the lives lived as well as those lost. During their healing process and as a way to give purpose to the loss of their sons, Mark and Carol have sought ways to convert their emptiness and profound sadness into a resource for others. The Grahams will continue to speak publicly about, to serve on boards and committees dedicated to...and to provide resources for SUICIDE PREVENTION.
The Grahams know that if their son, Jeff, had survived the IED, he would today be an amputee, severely burned, struggling with post-traumatic stress disorder, traumatic brain injury, and all the invisible wounds of war.
Through this website, they hope to share their own story, keep the memory of their sons alive, provide the resources that can save lives, and help loved ones recognize the warning signs they missed. "We knew Kevin was sad; we just didn't know he could die from being too sad."
"Jeffrey and Kevin together were like two parts of a whole. They were so connected on this earth, and we believe it must be so in eternity. Both of them were willing to sacrifice for the greater good of others. We will miss them forever, but we believe their sacrifices were part of a greater destiny."
"They died fighting different battles."
Jeff and Kevin are doing "the pinning" when Dad became a Major.
Graham Family at Jeff's Commissioning, May 9, 2003
Many have prayed for Carol, Melanie, and me, and without these prayers, we truly do not know how we would be making it each day. Thank you for your thoughts and prayers and for being so very compassionate.
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Released October 7, 2014
By Yochi Dreazen
The Grahams believe sharing their story and continuing to serve in the military is their way to make sure the boys’ legacy lives on.
If this is your first visit to the Graham Memorial Website, there are many links on the Legacy of Hope page that will acquaint you with our history, what we've learned, how we've coped, and how we're attempting to spare others similar losses.
"While we are mourning the loss of our sons, others are rejoicing to meet them in a place where they can once again be at each other's side."
"I knew our son was sad; I just didn't know he could die from being too sad."
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